Girls. Women. Chicks. Whatever you prefer to be called. We need to talk. As women, we are known nurturers, caretakers, and lovers. Lately I have been seeing more and more degradation of the female species. From men, yes. But more so from our own kind. Whether it's degrading another or degrading self. We GOTS to do better. There are several points that I would like to make, in hopes that this will reach someone and help them.
1. Sex. Sex is a good feeling, yes. We all know this. But sex is not the end all to happiness. I can speak from personal experience and openly say that, yes, I have had my share of partners, and even some "hoe tendencies" (yeah, I said it, don't judge). But from my experiences I am able to grow and learn things that are unacceptable. Such as, different partners almost every day of the week (not that I've done that). You feel empowered because even though the nigga has a girl you can call him and he will be over in less than an hour. But actually, he has the power. He knows that you know of his situation, yet you are willing to overlook that for a night of passion (or lack thereof, lol). Then you looking sad faced when he's parading his relationship around. Well, what did you expect? You don't run shit! Only thing you are doing is enabling a man to cheat on his girl: something you despise....WHEN YOU'RE THE ONE BEING CHEATED ON! Women, it is time to take responsibility. Not only is the whole sleeping around thing unladylike, but it's dangerous. There are too many diseases going around to be involved with multiple partners. Get some balls and learn to live with yourself. You do not need sex to validate you. What kind of validation is it providing anyway? That you're a good screw? You got that wet wet? Things become more trivial as you grow. I'm not judging....been there done that, learn from it, moved on. You know that empty feeling you get when he leaves.....the feeling that eats at your stomach....yeah, that's a sign, my dear. I'm just trying to help you put it into perspective. :)
2. Dress. Okay, a lot of women are dressing less and less and more skimpier. For what I don't know. It is okay to be "fancy" fully dressed. I hardly ever dressed provocatively, but I know I look DAMN good. I'm tired of seeing your ass, breasts or whatever else you feel like showing that night. Do we do this to get the eye of men? And if so, what do we expect he will want after seeing us exposed? Again, my advice....have some respect! And another thing: STOP wearing your label on your forehead. I'm so sick of hearing girls brag about their Bebe, Polo, Juicy outfits....O-V-E-R-I-T! First and foremost, if you got it at TJ Maxx, Marshalls, or Burlington you ain't pay anything CLOSE to regular price. And there is nothing wrong with shopping at those places if that's what you want. But damn, quit "faking it" cause we know you not "making it". Second of all, I'm confused....is it the brand that makes you FLy or are you NATURALLY FLY (like me lol). The clothes make you? Oh, ok! I get it. Well me, I'mma put together an outfit and you may NEVER know what brand it is or if it's a brand at all, but you know what, I make that shit look good! Women think that material things are the things that put you above the competition. No, sweetie, it's your intellect. The way you carry yourself. The way you light up a room when you step into REGARDLESS of what brand you have on. It's your personality, the love that you have for yourself that at anytime you can share with someone else who meets proper criteria. Oh, that's not it? Maybe it's just me. Moving on...
3. Ladies, why is it that we cannot celebrate another woman's successes or praise her for simply being beautiful. I have no problem admitting that a girl is doing her thing if she indeed is. If she doing something better than me, I can acknowledge that. I am no hater. Not bitter. Enjoy being in my own skin. Am confident in myself. And also know when I see a woman on her shit! What's the point of hating or looking down on her? Step YOUR game up....get on HER level. Stop being so damn bitter! You chicks kill me!
4. Stop trying to be the KING of your relationship. You cannot rule anyone. If a man is willing to stray, then either you haven't been doing what you are supposed to do, or he just isn't ready to be committed. Going through his phone, email, FB, Twitter all are signs of mistrust. If you don't trust him you don't need him! Do you seriously think that by NAGGING him about this girl or that girl or why he didn't answer your phone call are ways to get him to fall madly in love with you? I'll be the first to tell you it doesn't. It does, however, change a man....changes him into a man that doesn't wanna be bothered with you. A man who will never take you seriously or "wife" you. I am single and really cannot give extensive relationship advice. But I am single because I refuse to put up with the foolishness. Be a strong woman and walk away. If your relationship has more downs than ups, it's probably time to walk away. Remain a lady at ALL timems and in ALL you do! Act like a queen. Maybe your King will come around.
I have so much more to talk about with you, ladies. But for now I'll end here.
Be blessed.
K. Rod.
To be continued....
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